We mistake mistakes for failure

You and I both know nobody’s perfect. How many times have we heard that? The idea has been drilled into our heads since we arrived here on Earth. As kids, we’re told that making mistakes is necessary for personal growth and learning, it’s the thought that counts, “A” for effort, Blah, Blah, Blah.  This is all well and good, but despite all these truisms, the reality is that it isn’t merely our effort that’s valued but rather, a perfect result. What’s up with that?!  Continue reading

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What’s love anyway?

How do we know this love that will last? How do we ever know that they will stick around when times are hard or when we don’t feel so great or aren’t looking so great? We’ve got to look not only at their outside but also at their inside. Are they good looking to you on the outside and good people on the inside?  Are they kind – to you and to others? Continue reading

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Q&A: I find that having a drink or smoking up before getting in bed makes it easier to fall asleep. Is there a downside to that as long as I don’t make a habit of it?

Some drugs like marijuana and alcohol slow you down and “mellow” you out. While it sometimes helps with the “falling asleep” part of sleeping, most of us discover that it is not a particularly re-energizing, restorative sleep, often leaving us nearly as beat as when we went to sleep.  Part of the “hung-over” feeling is the result of falling asleep but not getting the full restful sleep you need. Continue reading

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Q&A: “I’m in a rough middle school, do you know anything that can stop the harassment some of us get for being different than what goes for “cool” around here?”

It is really hard to feel like you are being singled out and picked on.  I think we’ve all been there. But it can help to remember that you actually aren’t out there alone. We need to ask ourselves,  “Realistically, how many bullies are there compared to the number of us who are either the targets or the bystanders?  Don’t you think the rest of us outnumber bullies?  So why do they have all of the power?  It’s time to take our power back. Continue reading

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